Joy & Grief are Companions.

Two things are on my mind at the moment: Joy and Grief. And how they exist simultaneously. ⠀

The broken-heartedness I wrote about last week isn’t gone just because we’ve released our preorder. And the joy of the project doesn’t make the grief disappear. ⠀
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Two things are on my mind at the moment: Joy and Grief. And how they exist simultaneously. ⠀

The broken-heartedness I wrote about last week isn’t gone just because we’ve released our preorder. And the joy of the project doesn’t make the grief disappear. ⠀

Experiencing both at the same time feels somehow ungrateful. ⠀

And yet we are taking time for joy and practicing gratitude. ⠀

We are grateful for your support. ⁠Our slow-open has deemphasized urgency. And this gives us space. Space for joy, for grief, and for when something else comes up. As it does. As it did. For all of us. ⠀

For me it was minor. I got a cold. Usually I resist slowing down. But yesterday I did the bare minimum.⠀

I noticed @adriennemareebrown‘s book Emergent Strategies next to the bed. I picked it up. And started rereading it. ⠀

This morning I came to the Chapter “Nonlinear and Iterative”, and there‘s a part about grief. And it’s exactly what I needed to read. ⠀

Maybe someone else will find comfort in it too. ⠀

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“Remember you are water. Of course you leave salt trails. Of course you are crying. ⁠⠀
Flow. ⁠⠀
P.S. If there happens to be a multitude of griefs upon you, individual and collective, or fast and slow, or small and large, add equal parts of these considerations:⁠⠀
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•that the broken heart can cover more territory. ⁠⠀
•that perhaps love can only be as large as grief demands. ⁠⠀
•that grief is the growing up of the heart that bursts boundaries like an old skin or a finished life. ⁠⠀
•that grief is gratitude. ⁠⠀
•that water seeks scale, that even your tears seek the recognition of community. ⁠⠀
•that the heart is a front line and the fight is to feel in a world of distraction. ⁠⠀
•that death might be the only freedom. ⁠⠀
•that your grief is a worthwhile use of your time. ⁠⠀
•that your body will feel only as much as it is able to. ⁠⠀
•that the ones you grieve may be grieving you.⁠⠀
•that the sacred comes from the limitations.⁠⠀
•that you are excellent at loving.⁠”⠀


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Until next time. ⠀

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[Photo. by @kbredbeck The side of a light blue car covered in raindrops, the red brick road, and Katie’s purple hiking shoes. End.]

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